My sister is turning 30 years old tomorrow. This birthday is going to be like any other because, for the first time in 30 years, I won’t be able to wish her a happy birthday in person, nor will I be able to hug her. Something so simple as a hug has now turned into life or death. It has also become a simple reminder of not taking anything for granted. Realizing that I’m unable to hug my sister on her birthday breaks my heart. Still, it has also made me realize how meaningful my relationship with her is.
My sister and I are 20 months apart, her being the younger one. Growing up, we fought like cats and dogs over toys, clothes, and even friends. She was the annoying little sister, and I was the mean big sister. But no matter how much we fought, we would always make up and be friends at the end of the day. After all, we were partners in crime. The only person I could count on to partake in any kind of crazy plot that I came up with and also the only one who would have my back no matter what.
Over the years, our sisterly bond dynamic has shifted and changed. We are no longer convincing each other to climb on the roof of the house or chasing each other around, ready to strangle each other. Instead, we are each other’s friend that we call when we need someone to listen to us vent, to cry, or to laugh. Don’t get me wrong, our relationship is far from perfect. We still get mad at each other, hang up on each other, and have arguments, but now it’s over real-life situations. Well, sometimes it’s about clothes too, because some things never change. My sister is my best friend and my best enemy. We can talk about everything and fight over anything. Although I won’t be able to give her a hug on her birthday, I can do what I do best and write about how much she means to me and why I love her. The following is my birthday letter to my sister, Diora.
Happy birthday to the person who never ceases to amaze me. The girl who always seems to have life figured out. Your caring heart and desire to help others are an inspiration for all of us around you. Big sisters are supposed to be the ones who lead the path and light the way, but instead, I’ve admired you as you have created your own. Over the years, you’ve become the example that I wish to follow. You are compassionate, loving, determined, and ambitious. It is your drive to excel in whatever you do that will always lead you down the path to your dreams. Although you are an independent, hard-working, driven woman, you have a sense of humor like no other. That childish side that likes to laugh and joke around, it’s that spark of crazy that you only share with those closest to you, and it brightens up our days. If there is one word that I could use to describe how I feel about you besides love, it would be pride. I’m so proud of the woman that you have become. You never cease to amaze me. Not being able to spend your birthday together has only made me realize how blessed I am to have you as a sister, travel partner, and best friend. I love you more than words will ever be able to express, and I hope you have a fantastic birthday.
Love always,
Janel
P.S. I’m going to hug you so hard when I see you.
